Over the years I have had people at different points in my life, in different places and from different walks of life say to me ‘I find you inspirational’ or ‘thank you for all that you are, you have made a difference in my life’. And for a long time I was just confused by these sentiments.
After all, what was there about me to inspire others?
- As an adolescent I saw myself as an intellectual, gawky, shy female who in no way fit into any group. I changed secondary school because the ‘cliques’ of the first made me miserable. I changed the subjects I was studying every year. My ‘friends’ changed almost month-to-month. I spent breaks at school sitting by myself in the library because at least books were always there. I pursued a variety of interests including Girl Guides, drama, jazz ballet, keyboard, guitar, choir, Christian youth groups … I was a leader and rarely a follower.
- As a woman in my 20s I saw myself as stubborn, questioning, eccentric, single. I was regularly told that I was single because I ‘showed my intelligence too much’. I completed one degree and started another in a different topic in a different city. I grieved deeply when my father died, thrown into turmoil. I held part-time jobs and temporary jobs. I volunteered. I moved from Career 1 to Career 2. I met a group of people who for the first time seemed to accept me for who I was. I married one of them and we moved to the UK as I grieved the death of my brother.
- As a woman in my mid 30s I saw myself as a divorced, hurt, lonely individual trying to build a career that remunerated me for my years of experience and my breadth & depth of knowledge, skills. On one hand I had given up on being accepted for who I am and on the other I was determined to be as true to myself as was possible. I took a role in a global corporate conglomerate and tried to fit in without losing my star shape. I failed and moved employer. I had a year long on-again-off-again relationship with a man I refer to as ‘my learning curve’.
And yet there was so much more to me. It was as I was entering my 40s that I truly began to embrace all that I am as a Phenomenal Woman who continues evolving now. I owned that throughout my adulthood I have:
- learnt to face adversity with positivity and a determination to live this life to the fullest regardless of other people’s expectations or society’s conventional boundaries
- sought counselling and coaching at points in my life when I knew I had hard decisions to make or difficult periods in my life to progress through. And I delved deep within my Self to take 100% responsibility for who I was and where I was at to choose to transform and move forward
- self-funded my studies – moving on from academic qualifications to pursuing professional ones. Branching out to Neurolinguistic Programming, Transformational Coaching and mBraining
- built and nurtured amazing friendships with people globally. Learning how to connect meaningfully through quality rather than quantity. Allowing myself to hold lightly to those who matter to me so that we may all fly to seek sustenance where we need to. Trusting that depth of relationship keeps us connected
- filled my social life with quirkiness, fun, travel, gastronomy, culture, history and nature. Allowed myself to pursue new interests and drop those which had fulfilled my curiosity for now without guilt or any feeling of having ‘failed’
- took control of my physical well-being, determinedly healing from two open-heart surgeries to pursue outdoor adventures and share amazing experiences with friends and family.
When I knew it was time for a change – no matter how significant – I went for it. I moved countries, cities, jobs, careers to ensure that the dreams I have and my driving need for variety are being fulfilled.
And I discovered that as I owned the totality of who I am as a human becoming I loved my SELF and all that I have experienced, accomplished and progressed through. Fully experiencing a variety of hard lessons over a decade I learnt to embrace my SELF fully as a woman. I stood firmly in my strength, leadership, intellect, creativity, compassion, empathy, joyfulness, endurance, courageousness and I ROARED.
Now, as a Phenomenal Woman I am partnered with an equally Phenomenal Man, I am CEO of my own business, I am a global citizen, I am a home and tent owner, I have fabulously amazing friends and an awe-inspiring family. I live my values in everything that I do.
I am excited to be collaborating with Shamela Kylassum of Pansophia Associates in offering opportunities to other women to fully own their PHENOMENAL becoming! Together we women will further transform ourselves and we will go on to deeply transform our worlds. We look forward to connecting with you through our community!